and I come up with all the wrong answers. I say “oh, well I wear these kinds of clothes, do these things at these places, I hang around these kinds of people, do this, refuse to do that, I’ve never done this and that and I never will, I wanna be this, I look like this, I’ll never look like that, etc., etc.”
I get called so many different things, as I’m sure we all do, like pretty, ugly, skinny, fat, trendy, non-conformist, cool, irritating, annoying, precious, ignorant, stupid, smart…… so many different things get slapped on me like a name tag without directions for what to do with them.
Most of the time I just let go of them and keep doing what I think is right, but sometimes I latch onto nice or rude labels and adopt them as part of who I am. When I was 15, I’d be like “oh, I’m supposed to be the pretty girl” “I’m the smart girl” “I’m the fat unwanted one” “I’m the stupid one that never does anything right” “I’m the one who doesn’t fit in anywhere” “I’m better than everyone else” “I’m the worst person ever…” I don’t do it as often as I did when I was younger but I still do from time to time.
But here’s my point: none of those things are who I am. They’re just little things about me, some of which stay pretty consistent, some change pretty rapidly, but they all evolve for the most part. Those things, like me, are always changing to some degree.
I am not my labels, habits, quirks, strengths, weaknesses, flaws, talents, mistakes, or environment.
I am a human being with love in my soul.
Girls, I know how easy it is to get caught up in your appearance and think you can’t be seen without makeup or that everyone is judging you based on your appearance. I know how it feels to think you’ll never be good enough and no matter what you do, somebody has you beat. If you forget what you are, which is an IMPERFECT HUMAN BEING, you can be swallowed too easily by these negative thoughts.
But please, PLEASE remember that there are so few tangible limits on the human being. Wrap your brain around this: you’re afraid to be seen in an unattractive setting because someone will think you’re ugly…… And then what!?! What will happen if someone thinks you’re ugly? Will you actually BE ugly? Will your head explode and your whole family drop dead? WHAT’S ACTUALLY GONNA HAPPEN IF SOMEBODY THINKS YOU’RE UGLY!??! NOTHING!!!!! THE THOUGHT WILL CROSS THEIR MIND. THAT’S IT.
Just because someone (OR YOU) calls you ugly DOESN’T MEAN YOU’RE UGLY. Even if you’re not the most physically attractive person on this earth, YOU ARE STILL BEAUTIFUL. You can still change people’s lives with your caring and move mountains with your love. PLEASE unlimit yourself, release yourself from the chains of other people’s opinions.
You’re wasting so much time trying to please others that you could be spending developing your skills or expressing your love for people who’ve actually earned it.
Nobody is perfect, strong 100% of the time, or lives without mistakes. But realize that your life could be so much more than it is right now. You’d be so much happier if you just let go of the fear of sticking out from the crowd.
THE ONLY REASON PEOPLE SAY YOU CAN’T DO SOMETHING IS BECAUSE THEY HAVEN’T SEEN YOU DO IT YET.
